Marriage

an unloved woman

IMG_9646 i recently returned from serving on an event that ministers to and speaks to women and who (and whose) they are. one of the speakers mentioned a bible verse that was like a 2x4 between the eyes to me.

now, the humor in this to me, is that while homeschooling and using the curriculum we did for most of our 18 years of home education, we read this verse no less than one day each month of the year (with the exception of February, since the calendar never reached this date). i never saw this scripture this way.

it is:

Proverbs: 30:21 and 23. 'under 3 things the earth quakes, and under 4 it cannot bear up: under an unloved woman when she gets a husband'.

these passages speak VOLUMES to me. i have been that unloved woman. how many women do you know, or you are yourself, who wasn't loved growing up? doesn't love herself? and doesn't know the love our God has for her? when we marry and are not loved or don't know that love, we look to a man to complete us or fulfill in us only those things God can. and are we surely disappointed? and are others in us? and how miserable we make everyone around us? WOW....i had never seen this verse like this or understood it this way.

we as women have GOT to get to the place we know who we are, WHOSE we are, that we are loved, we love ourselves and allow God to heal those wounds of being unloved as children. only then can we truly walk and love in freedom.

my prayer for me and mine and really any i walk with is:

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God~Ephesians 3:16-19